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The Fertile Monk
Becoming a dad is a bit like becoming a monk. It requires devotion.



Feature Stories - Dads

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Fatherhood: A New Year, New Ghosts
I found truth as I looked into their eyes, and they looked back into mine; the truth that we were and always will be one, divinely connected.

Start the New Year with a Hug
Men generally tend to look toward the future. We focus ahead, on resolving issues that won't impact on our lives for years.


Frozen Moments
Father-child poetry, by Tom Krause.


The Wonder Kid
A wonder kid is always good. A wonder kid does what she should. A wonder kid is never bad. A wonder kid makes daddies glad.


Flights of Fancy
I must take care of my needs first or I will be unable to care for my children.

Christmas: Listen for the Bell that Keeps Your Dreams Alive - part 4 of 4
Christmas: When we allow people to rob us of the things that are most dear to us, we lose the battle that leads to our own salvation. Don’t let that happen. Keep your dreams alive.


He's Here! - Christmas part 3 of 4
Finding the Lord Jesus at Christmas with Archie Wortham - 3rd in 4-part Series

Christmas, Old Meets New: A Teenager Corresponds with a Soldier - part 2 of 4
Write a letter. Send an e-mail. Call someone who you feel needs the encouragement this Christmas.

Deciding What's Important - Christmas part 1 of 4
Christmas with Archie Wortham. Christmas is about sharing, and children love to share.


Give a Gift Worth Sharing: Yourself
For a busy dad, missing his own father during the holidays has helped him understand the importance of his role, as he realizes his own presence is the most important gift to his kids during the holidays.


Fatherhood: Our Baby Is A Boy
The picture of fatherhood. The photo made it clear that we would have a son. I could picture him already as a little boy. Fathering poetry, by A.A.Talbert

My Gift to Babies and Parents
Nathanael Schildbach presents the top ten toys that infants love and should have in their first year of life.


A Separation
Father-son poetry, by James B. Smith.

Missing Children: How Cause-Related Marketing Fuels the Scandal
Much of the responsibility for public misperception of the missing children problem goes to the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children, says The Wall Street Journal

Shared Parenting: Making Appropriate Custody and Access Decisions
Actively involved fathers participate in their child's homework, sports, school, and extra-curricular activities. This is only achievable by sharing physical custody.


The Tragedy of Lies Told in Divorce Court: My Dad Hates Me
My Dad hates me. That's what my Mom told me, so that's what I told the judge. This is how family court works after a divorce.


Father-Son Poetry: The Juniper Tree
Fathering poetry about the father-son relationship in a natural outdoor setting, by Michael Mager.

Abstinence as a Form of Planned Parenthood
Abstinence, like anything else that works, has to be taught. Who best to teach this but dad or mom?


A Father of Brothers
If you have more than one child, you soon realize you cannot love them the same. Your love for them is as different as they are.

Gelding, by Lily: The sorrowful rise of neuter man
Women became enraged that men regarded them as sex objects. Men were puzzled. They didn't know what else to regard as sex objects.


Missing Children: John Walsh and the NCMEC
Much of the responsibility for public misperception of the missing children problem goes to the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children, says The Wall Street Journal

Sleepover
Like changing a diaper or driving five hours to the soccer tourney, hosting a sleepover can be a trying part of fathering. But, hey, somebody's got to do it!

The Bully: Dads Take Care of Bullies
Bullies: Many times, what we expect as parents is not clear, particularly from our sons.


Human Reproduction: Why We Have Children
For human fathers, the work of raising a child is part of reproduction.


Missing Children: How Politics Helped Start the Scandal
Much of the responsibility for public misperception of the missing children problem goes to the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children, says The Wall Street Journal


Flights of Fancy
I must take care of my needs first or I will be unable to care for my children.


Brothers
I'm not sure what it is about siblings, but somewhere along the way some of us find it difficult to love each other like we love our friends.


Father's World
Of all the objects of my childhood, these are the ones that represent my dearest childhood memories of spending time with my father.

Competition: Size Isn't Everything
Men constantly strive to best each other, to get one up on the next man. And if this compulsion is not softened, it creates hard edges on relationships that last a lifetime.


Daughters: Dragonflies
Erin is almost eight and, for now anyway, is still Daddy's Little Girl.


Raising Junior: Practical Uses for Children
You don't care that a cuddly meat puppet will make your life more complete; you want to know how Junior will make your life more productive. Well, listen up, Alphas. This father of three has the answers.


Whats in a Name?
Whats in a name? More than you think!


My Reward, My Punishment...My Son
Thousands of alleged deadbeat and apathetic Dads stand in the shadows, wishing they could fulfill the most precious responsibility.

Sex and Inflation: the Declining Value of Abuse
Time was, an abuse allegation had some value. But that was before everyone had lots of them, and inflation had set in. After all, masturbation is self-abuse, and look where that's ended up.


Thanksgiving: Finding Peace Through Giving Thanks
It's Thanksgiving time again. Thanksgiving reminds us to give thanks for the good, and thankful we can work through the bad.


Soccer Dad
He's the kid who the coach always puts at left fullback, so he'll be out of the way.


The Bully, the CyberBully and Their Victims
The experience of being singled out and picked on can turn into an ever more emotionally devastating downward spiral, and the experience of power felt by a bully can also become a dangerous emotional high that pushes him or her to more extreme behavior.


Feminists' Attack on Boys: Little Green Soldiers
But the constant assault on little boys is, I think, an extension of The Chip, the snappish, distempered animosity toward all things male.


The Metrosexual Man vs. the Cowboy
He always looks perfectly put together. He can be in a t-shirt and jeans or heading out to a black-tie event. His hair never has a bad day.


VAWA: Joe Biden's Shame
Introduced in the 1980s with good intentions, VAWA has mutated into a system of repression, power and control, manipulated by the domestic violence industry and exploited by vengeful spouses seeking advantage in divorce and child custody.


Bullies and Their Victims: Wanna Fight?
Bullies and their victims can be boys or girls, and bullying can take place in cyberspace as well as the schoolyard. Both the bully and his or her victim suffer, and some are driven to extreme or suicidal behavior.


Children and Cars
Parents worst fears are often misplaced. The automobile remains the leading hazard to children. By comparison, according to the FBI, at most 200 children are abducted by strangers each year. But where is attention focused?


Cyberbullying: What Parents Can Do
Any child can become a cyberbully simply by sending an angry response to an e-mail or to being flamed and allowing the exchange to escalate. Learn what parents can do about it.


Reclaiming Fatherhood
Fatherhood: fixing man's broken chain of progenisis. A look at what needs to change in order for fathers to be more openly and actively involved in the raising of their children.


Things Handed Down
As most new fathers do, I find myself watching my son as he plays, thinking about the responsibility I have to him. It's a wonderful, albeit intimidating, thing. Knowing that I will guide this precious little person from infancy to manhood is something I don't take lightly.

New Wave Pro-Family Advocates Leave Fathers Out of Family
If welfare provides better support for a single mother than the father can, then remaining separate may be the rational economic choice.


A Revolution in American Fathering
This is about fathers crying, cooking, being afraid, braiding hair, waiting with children at the doctor's office, the principal's office, after school at the soccer field. The bottom line is, more and more men are choosing to be hands-on, hearts-on fathers than ever before.


Awee -- part one, fiction by Nasdijj (Timothy Patrick Barrus)
Behind all of his resolute complexity, there is a tender, rather scared boy, a boy who sometimes trembles, and I have to keep reminding myself of that.


My Reward, My Punishment...My Son
Thousands of alleged deadbeat and apathetic Dads stand in the shadows, wishing they could fulfill the most precious responsibility.


Trim Kids
The proven 12-week plan that has helped thousands of children achieve a healthier weight.


The Importance of Father's Time
An increased amount of father-child involvement increases a child's social stability, educational achievement, and even their potential to have a solid marriage as an adult.


The American Feminists' Abuse Industry
Women's shelter staffers know full well that a charge of domestic violence, real or otherwise is virtually indefensible in our politically correct courts.


Intersex
One out of every two thousand births is an intersex child, and the new baby presents the parents with a sudden gender dilemma. A tradition of secrecy means most parents are totally unprepared.


Child Kidnapping: It's Rare when Compared to the Many Other Dangers to Children
Your child is far more at risk traveling in your car than when playing outdoors. Get your priorities straight to keep your kids safe.


Blended Family Homework
Our most important work is done at home.


Second Wives, Second Families.
A man's new wife and family often suffer because the first wife takes so much of the man's earnings. These articles are written by women who advocate a greater respect for Fathers' Rights.

The Missing Children of NCMEC
Congress approves more pork for the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children, who will supposedly find more missing children.


Your Father, Why Bother
How daughters can strengthen relationships with their fathers.


For My Daughter
Father-daughter poetry, by Marvin Rabinovitch.


Fathers Are Essential
Scores of research studies have documented the positive effects of involved fathers.


Despite Serious Consequences, Teens Still Start Smoking
In the United States, more than 3 million 12- to 17-year olds smoke, despite massive advertising campaigns about the risks involved.


Teen Drinking: The Truth About Alcohol
Teen Slang for Alcohol -Booze, Sauce, Brews, Brewskis, Hooch, Hard Stuff, Juice.

Of Statistics, Single Mothers and the Politics of Language
Studies show that, overwhelmingly, children being raised in homes with both a mother and a father enjoy a lot of benefits that children from single parent homes do not.


Traits of a Good Parent
You might think that the Stay-At-Home-Parent should be an expert in certain areas like time management or household organization. It turns out that these aren't as vital to being a good Chief Household Officer as you might think...


Halloween Boos & Clues
This special Halloween disc features four Scooby-Doo episodes.


Baseball - Beginning Father-Son Sports Activities with Young Boys
This story shows us not only how fathers affect the lives of young boys, but how men learn from their sons as well.


My Dad Is a Hero
...all of a sudden we were fugitives....Dad, I know you spent fathers' day in jail this year, so no one else has to do what we had to do. You are my hero, dad, I love you.


NOT For Your Consideration
When deciding which parent should quit his or her job and stay home with the kids, there are certain things that should NOT be considered...


True Soap: The Role of Support
Your question on the phone seems to me rather in line with the person who, having put a bellows to a fire, later stops by the scene to ask how things are going.


Which One Should Stay Home?
Just because you are the Dad does not mean that you would be the best choice to stay home with the kids while your wife goes to work. There are many things to consider first, like who is the best suited for the job.

Children in Single-Mom Households "at Risk" - What do we do about it?
The fact that children raised by single mothers are at increased risk is found over and over again.


Bias Suit Reveals the Truth behind Schools' Boy Crisis
Two decades ago, boys were doing just fine. But now girls outnumber boys 2 to 1 on the honor roll, and about 60% of Advanced Placement students are female.

Sons Will Only Grow Up when Mothers Let Them
There are mothers who want their sons to remain dependent, and these men may marry a woman to replace mom, finding it normal to have a woman who will dominate and mother them. Fathers need to be alert to this cycle and intervene, so their sons will grow up to be better parents and spouses.


Please Don't Leave Your Children Alone!
...a three year old child was left unattended in a car that was subsequently stolen.


Deserted
Her mother said "Your father left you because he doesn't love you." Now she has learned the truth--her loving father was forced out of her life.

Mothers Raise Presidents...But!!
How influential are the maternal grandfathers of great presidents in the lives of their daughters? Mothers raise presidents, but who raised them?


New Single Father Suggestions
Practical childcare tips for the man who has to go it alone.


They Won't Be in Diapers Forever!
How small children learn to maintain bladder and bowel control.


Don't be a Junta: Walk away before a fight kills someone
Disciplining and punishing may win battles, but the models we give them win the war.

My Wife Is a Chauvinist Attorney, I Stay Home
Sometimes the wife is uniformly unappreciative of the at-home-husband, complaining bitterly about any money he spends, even on the children's clothes, is constantly wondering what he does all day, and resents the time he spends with friends.


Father of the Bride
FatherMag poetry, by Jennie Wheeling.

Mothers' Gatekeeping Keeps Dads Uninvolved
Mothers who seek martyrdom keep their sons from becoming self-sufficient.


Joy of Fatherhood: A Three Year Old and a Wedding
One of those special joys of fatherhood. My wife and I were excited that our two year old would be a flower girl a day before her third birthday. What a pretty picture!

Off the Boat When?
Is 'child-support' just a euphemism for alimony?

The Prodigal Son: Finding a Lost Son
It takes a man to father a child, but it takes a real man to be father.


Soccer Dad
He's the kid who the coach always puts at left fullback, so he'll be out of the way.


Teaching Children the Importance of Winning
Encouraging in our children the drive to win is just as important as teaching them to lose gracefully.

Friends Become Brothers when Brothers Are Not Friends
You must never underestimate the power of your actions. With one small gesture, you can change a person's life.


Snow White Strikes Again
Are our women really the fairy tale fantasy that we pretend they are?


Magnolias
The message I got was to slow down, the teacher, a stalwart Southern Magnolia.

Don't Wait Another Day to Enjoy Life with Your Family
I’m not sure how you’ve spent your summer, but this has been a busy one for us. One that included several trips to places as a family without work, e-mail, or the computer. Among those things that we secured are memories, or gifts that the children will have forever.

How well does New Jersey protect its children?
Examine one investigator's conclusion that New Jersey's DYFS is run as a criminal enterprise, in violation of RICO statutes.

In the Land of Woe
Unequal pay - Gender gap grows wider.

Learning to Love, not Control Our Sons
Fathers are responsible for the fights they have with their sons, and sons are responsible for continuing this madness!


Discipline the Bully
When adult control fails, the resulting power vacuum is filled by gangs and bullies.

Men Are Beasts
Whereas false accusations by women are in fact rare, occurring no more often than do other false reports of crimes, such as bank robbery -- Joint Congressional Resolution 182.

Values Come from Parents, not from Schools
As brothers and sisters in our global village, shouldn't we let go of those resentments we harbor, particularly if they pull us down?


Nightly Ritual
FatherMag poetry, by David Francis Spring


Portrait of Father
It's the father I remember from my childhood, the one who threw me up in the air, rode me on his shoulders, my first love.

Rules and Nintendo
If we don't teach our kids to follow the rules, are we not teaching them to choose to break them?

Returned
Fathering poetry, by Barry Koplen

Fathers' Rights Are Fathers' Duties
Why political action is the best thing you can do for yourself, your case -- and above all your children.

Use Parents to Bust up Bullies!
Many of the recent shootings seem to indicate a preponderance of bullying is going on in America, and apparently, no one is doing anything about it.


Fatherhood: Our Baby Is A Boy
The picture of fatherhood. The photo made it clear that we would have a son. I could picture him already as a little boy. Fathering poetry, by A.A.Talbert


Fatherhood: The First Month
Fathering poetry for that first challenging month of fatherhood, by A.A.Talbert.

Puberty Connection and Nintendo
What does Nintendo have to do with entering puberty? Always new games. Frustrating until you understand what's going on

Class Dismissed
Has America created a new class of citizens who are excluded from constitutional provisions regarding due process and debtors prison?

Just Let Me Be a Dad
A review of Michelle D. Lovato's book of practical advice for divorcing fathers.

Men 2 Fathers
Tell our sons what they need to hear. Be there, not to keep them from falling, but to help them up if they do.


Father from Afar
Fathers from afar must learn how to hear what is not said, feel what is not seen, and say what should be said.

Let No Man Put Asunder
Is our traditional faith in justice being eroded by courts that operate as a child kidnapping and extortion racket?

The Spurs, Duncan & Rules
The importance of rules, and the importance of icons like Tim Duncan following the rules, even if it means wearing a suit.

Daddy
FatherMag poetry, by Barry Koplen.


Separated Siblings
How do children deal with the interrupted attachments so common in blended families?

Freedom, Like Education, Is Not Cheap
In todays world, our kids get lost because of the freedoms afforded them, without making them understand what things cost.

Caregiver
I refuse to give up the right to raise my child in the best way I know how.

Long-Distance Daddy
I'm left wondering how many of my values my children will learn through telephone conversations, and how many of their values they'll learn from their mother and their friends.


Boy Crisis: Who's Afraid of Carol Gilligan?
Gilligan reported that girls found themselves voiceless and adrift. Go to any schoolyard, and you will find that more often it is the voices of boys who have become silenced.


Recycled Dad
I witnessed first hand the strong father/daughter bond they shared; an invaluable joy which I had never experienced in my own life.

Divorce: Angels and Divorce
Dean Hughson tells how a couple of angels helped save him in those critical hours following his divorce.


Bias Suit Reveals the Truth behind Schools' Boy Crisis
Two decades ago, boys were doing just fine. But now girls outnumber boys 2 to 1 on the honor roll, and about 60% of Advanced Placement students are female.


Gender Bias in Family Court
A paralegal gives her insider's view of women who make use of the child kidnapping and extortion racketeers in our justice system.

The Price of Love
Fathering poetry, by A.A.Talbert.


For My Daughter
Father-daughter poetry, by Marvin Rabinovitch.

I Sucked the President, says Monica Lewinsky
All in all, Monica Lewinsky acted like a woman, the President acted like a man, and the dogs lusting after his position as leader acted like assassins.

Pop Your Poppa
A practical poem for dealing with hitting behavior in young children. By A.A.Talbert.

The Suicide Of Marlboro Man
The Price Of Freedom Is Slavery. Sort Of. A Little, Anyway.

Fatherless Boys at Risk
Those boys whose fathers were absent from the household had double the odds of being incarcerated -- even when other factors such as race, income, parent education and urban residence were held constant.

Is It Soup Yet?
In new stepfamilies there often exists the misconception that immediate harmony is possible.

Fiesta In Ajijic
A Partisan View Of Mexico

Are You a Potential Child Abuser?
Almost anyone, if pushed far enough, can get angry enough to scream, hit, or even kill.

Raising Child
Fathering poetry, by A.A.Talbert.

Birthing The Ogpu
Chronicles Of The Galloping Sovietization

In Search of a History
The Preamble, the Declaration of Independence, and the Gettysburg Address are the sacred scriptures of this nation.

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A Sniper and National Character
The trouble with terrorism is that it produces too many psychotherapists. This nonsense is now the normal American response to misfortune.


Cyberbullying: Facing the Bully in the Computer
Cyberbullying is a growing concern among school-age children. Learn how to recognize the warning signs in your kids, and find out what parents can do about it.

In the Best Interest of the Child - The Child Custody Evaluation
Today's fathers are more likely to seek custody. Many of them will need to prepare for a child custody evaluation.

asm.org
At Last! A Web Site For Dyslexic Sex Maniacs

The Daddy Zone
Fatherhood is a lifelong journey. At times too incredible to be real, too real to be a dream. A continuous voyage into uncharted territory. Try to prepare for the unforeseen.

Arriving Home
Fathering poetry, by David Francis Spring.


Fatherhood and the Metrosexual Dad
These men enjoy theater as much as a ball game, collect recipes as well as tools, are emotionally present, and work hard to better their community. Know any?

Ritalin and ADD/ADHD: Bad Boys Take Drugs
Ritalin and ADD/ADHD: Drugging children for gender differences could be harmful.

Feminism: Beauty or the Beast?
Feminism, brute presumption, deadbeat dads, domestic violence, zero tolerance for abuse, NOW. After a round on the talkshow circuit exposing gender inequities, activist and paralegal Pearle Harbor gives us an earful.

Teenagers Push Us Closer to God
If your son doesn't play sports, how can he get some of that exploding testosterone out of his body? He can't stay in bed or the bathroom forever.

A Grandmother Speaks Out on Fathers' Rights and Debtor's Prison
It isn't just men who suffer at the hands of the child abduction and extortion racketeers whose business is that of forcibly taking a man's home and family and freedom from him.


The Drugged Hoods - Fathering Poetry
It's about being a father during a trying time when my daughter was put in the hospital. By Michael Graber.

Serena, Tennis, and Playing Fair
Play by the rules. It's important to fight for what you believe, but fight by the rules.

Bad Boys Take Drugs - Ritalin and ADD/ADHD
Bad Boys Take Drugs: Drugging children for gender differences could be harmful.

Pediatric Pop
As a freshman at the University of Parenthood I suddenly found myself majoring in Public Health with a minor in Childhood Ailments.

Men & Martha Burk--More than About Golf
Burk's attempt to encroach upon the sanctity of the Masters threatened one of the few places men can go and be MEN.


Man of the House - A Single Father Talks
Daily life is trial by fire for the male single parent.

The Name Game
The fact that gestation is nine months long has nothing to do with a biological timetable but, rather, this is the average time frame it will take prospective parents to agree on a name.

Gay: Son Teaches Dad a New Word
To many middle-schoolers, gay now means dumb or boring.


A Big Job
That was the moment when I knew how important daddies can be to little girls.

Feminism and Patriarchy
There is a prevailing assumption that the two are in opposition. But it could be that the two can coexist.

Dad Challenging Dads
Dads help each other by realizing that being right is better than being macho.

The Labor Movement: A Fathers Guide
Every male can usually recall a point in time during his life that he officially became a man. For me, it was the first time the pregnancy test stick showed two lines.


Single Dad Raising a Girl
I don't play Barbies as often as she'd like. Anyway, there are times I actually sit here and think about what it is that's missing for her.

I Am a Father Advocate
Being an involved father is the making of tomorrow's future.


Youth Baseball Practice - Father-Son Sports Activities with Young Boys
The youth baseball season is unlike any other season. With a little preparation, it can be as much fun for you as it is for the players.

Dooty, Honor, Country: A Fathers Guide to Changing Diapers
As a part of my Fathers Guide series, I present to you the job that has caused me more trauma on a personal level than any other of my fatherly duties.


Cyberbullying: What Parents Can Do
Any child can become a cyberbully simply by sending an angry response to an e-mail or to being flamed and allowing the exchange to escalate. Learn what parents can do about it.


Parental Promise
Fathering poetry, by S. Goodwin.

Science Fair Project Ideas Revisited
When the kids have a science fair project to do, it's time to look for good ideas for an experiment and then successfully carry through to the final presentation.

Moving ahead, not just rolling along
Rolls out a promise for challenging dads to come to grips with the power they have as fathers--to raise a country of young men as proud as we are of our forefathers.


Not a Father, a Daddy!
From teenage father to single dad.

Your Standards Are A Changin'
I once believed I could mold and shape my child's eating habits.

Being Mean, Dads Teach by Example
Surviving diseases our families innoculate us against: None of these can be more important than helping our sons control their egos, as they teach us to deal with our own.

New Father In Search of Limb-Cracking Action
Soon after my wife got pregnant last year I was advised, Get all the movies out of your system now, before the baby comes, because that's the thing you are going to miss the most.


First Time Fathers Over 40
In separate interviews with several first-time fathers over 40, three factors emerged which seemed important to their readiness for becoming older dads: occupational and financial security, a clear understanding and adaptation to today's diverse fatherhood roles, and a strong drive for a sense of closure to their childless period of life.

A Pox To Blight With
Technology Is Good For You


The Single Parent
Fathering poetry, by R.R. Fretz.

The Secret Alimony Hidden in Child Support
Scientific proof exists that many child support awards are too high.

Nothing is ever lost if we believe!
Sometimes, it's our children who give back to us the belief we lose in ourselves.


Not a Father, a Daddy! From teenage father to single dad, part two
More from Glenn about how he went from teenage father to single dad.

Wrestling Wonder
Without warning she quite adroitly flips over to her stomach, kicks free and with a deft backhand move she removes the partially fastened clean diaper.

"I Was Scared"
A son and a dad learn how to grow closer by talking things out, even if it hurts!


Columbine and Heritage - 20/20 Shot You Down
Columbine and Heritage are only shooting galleries extending from our home. Fathering poetry, by Salvador G. Valdez.


Columbine: Chaos and Control
To think that a particular parenting style will keep our children sheltered from the horrors of this world is ludicrous. The best we can do for our child is be present as life washes over him.


Child Support Policy and Robert Williams
Why are child support awards so high? Because the same people who write the child support award guidelines are actually getting a cut of what parents pay!


Family Vacation Summer Fun: Ideas for Dads
Vacation is in the air. After 180 days of school, what have you learned, dads?


A Child's Hug
Hug: Fathering poetry, by Salvador G. Valdez.


Politically Correct Science
Has anything changed since the days when Copernicus and Galileo came under pressure for challenging the religious establishment's view of astronomy?

Going Fast
Going Faster And Faster. The Acceleration Of Decline.

Real Women
Pearle Harbour is back with an update in her ongoing battle against feminist extremists.


True Soap: The Role of Support
Your question on the phone seems to me rather in line with the person who, having put a bellows to a fire, later stops by the scene to ask how things are going.

A Surfeit Of Piety
Commies, Conservatives, And Trash On The Trail

Swimmingly Submerged
How to survive and even enjoy a neighborhood swim meet.


Brothers
I'm not sure what it is about siblings, but somewhere along the way some of us find it difficult to love each other like we love our friends.


NOT For Your Consideration
When deciding which parent should quit his or her job and stay home with the kids, there are certain things that should NOT be considered...

Shaving School
Shaving: Fathering poetry, by Salvador G. Valdez.

Jamming in the Sandbox
A father enjoys his grown son and reminisces over pleasant hours in the sandbox when his boy was young.

Who's Your Daddy?
Daddy: Fathering poetry, by Salvador G. Valdez.

What My Father Taught Me
Full-Time Dads Magazine asked correspondents to share something special that their father taught them.

Every Day Is Fathers Day
Fathering poetry, by Scott Hunter.

Fathers Day - Victorious Wings
A daughter remembers girlhood days of chasing butterflies with a net made by her Dad.

Fathers' Day Reunion
That Robert and I are able to come together to share the joy of our daughters amazes both of us. We're probably the only fathers like us in Cleveland. Maybe in the state, the country, the whole world.

Feminist Tarantulas
Would you rather cuddle one, or step on it?

Sleepover
Like changing a diaper or driving five hours to the soccer tourney, hosting a sleepover can be a trying part of fathering. But, hey, somebody's got to do it!


Cats: Fat with Cats
A father tells how his daughters filled the house with cats.

Chairs
Fathering Poetry, by Barry Koplen.

Child Abduction: My Child Is Missing
Maternal child snatching - one father tells how he successfully got his child back.

Fathering: Dad's Department
Equality of the sexes? Hah! Gender roles are still a part of family life. After all, when was the last time Dad decided on a couch fabric, or Mom fixed that gurgling toilet?

Sex and Radioactive Cholera
In the morning I get up, throw a few coffee cups against the wall in reflexive rage before killing the neighbors dog, and then assault a lady on the subway. The male riders cheer me on: patriarchal bonding. Then we stand around and compare genitals until I get off. Hey, it's guy stuff.

Child Abduction: My Child Is Missing - Again!
Maternal child snatching - one father tells how he successfully got his child back.

Against Marriage
Remember that after the divorce, she is going to hate you. How much do you think she's going to want you around, after she has re-daddied your children?

If Men Have All the Power How Come Women Make the Rules?
Sexism: How it affects men and boys.


Fatherhood: Dad vs. Zelda
Nothing destroys a father's ironclad parental guideline faster than the realization that the guideline makes your child a social leper.

Child Abduction: My Child Is Missing a Third Time
Maternal child snatching - one father tells how he successfully got his child back.


Family Style Vacation
This is supposed to be a family vacation!

Connections
Sometimes all it takes is holding a hand to really connect.

Fathering: Learning Through Experience
Children can learn how to behave in differing social settings by being a part of their parents' social life. The child left out will be left behind socially, too.

Poetry: For Justin
This piece is about the day my son was born. I was feeding him in my arms while we rocked in our rocking chair. It reflects the hopes and fears I had about this new person I was holding." By Gregory Barbieri.

Child Abduction: Turning Personal Loss into Public Law
Maternal child snatching - one father tells how he successfully got his child back, and got the law changed to make child-snatching a felony offense.

Baby Boomer Grandpa
Grandpa: Fathering poetry, by Salvador G. Valdez.

A Plague of Grief Therapy
Grief Therapy? Hey, this is pretty scary. The country may be riddled with grief therapists. Like grubs in a rotting tree.


Dads Are Important: A True Story of What Fathers Do
Jack Kammer's story shows us how fathers affect the lives of teenage boys.


Fatherhood: Loving Kids
I decided to have kids. I think fatherhood appealed to me because I felt I had something to give, spare room in my life, a tender feeling that I wanted to protect and nurture.

Full Time Dad - Learning How to Do It
John Hadden describes how he became a successful at-home father.

Route 301
A Report from the Far Side of Mars

How the False Claims of the Child Abuse Industry Have Harmed America
Those who profit from the Child Abuse Industry must convince both us and their victims that everything is abuse. News media, therapists, prosecutors, judges, lawyers and sex police. Thousands of jobs depend on maximizing claims of abuse.


Encounters with Oedipus Rex
The Oedipus complex: Insight into the often unexpected sexual behavior of young children.

Yes, Mommy
Yes, Mommy. A Well-Regulated State.

Clyde Verner: Children -- Sexual Economics and the Distribution of Progeny
Clyde Verner looks at alternatives to a traditional barter system which offered financial rewards in exchange for sexual services. With marriage no longer necessary, the family gets redefined.

Died With A Smile
Will women ever be treated as responsible persons?

Mourning As A Performing Art
Mourning As A Performing Art. Migraine Television.

On Disney, Daughters, and Dads
Analyzing the Disney portrayal of the father-daughter relationship.


The Case for Father Custody
Daniel Amneus makes the case for fathers getting custody of their children. "It is fatherhood which makes childhood possible."

Random Thoughts On Expatriation
Random Thoughts On Expatriation. Pulling The Plug.

Eleanor Leacock: Deceptions of a Gender Equal Society
The fraudulent claims in Eleanor Leacock's contribution to Becoming Visible, a textbook used in Womens' History classes.

What I Don't Like
At-home father Stephen Harris doesn't like being called Mr. Mom.

Condescension
Remedial Condescension. Are We Sure This Is What We Want?

There Must Be a Better Way
Kevin Holton starts a home business to become an At-Home father.

Daddy Oh Daddy, Where Have You Gone?
In order to qualify for most of the free government funds, the women must first physically acquire, in some manner, one or more children.

A Subliminal War
A Subliminal War. The Average Possum Could Do It Better.

Man, Woman, and Child
How should men defend the integrity of their families?

Don't Leave Your Children Alone in the Car!
The hazards of leaving your child in the car.


Fatherhood: True Stories
Real fatherhood in action - anecdotes.


Bullies and Their Victims Disarmed
If a bully continues his or her aggressive behavior past his or her late teens, he or she not only risks losing friends, but also risks getting a criminal record.

The DC Bob
Doing The DC Bob. You'da Thought Moscow Was Too Big To Move.

Encounters with Oedipus Rex
The Oedipus complex: Insight into the often unexpected sexual behavior of young children.

Dads Are Important: A True Story of What Fathers Do
Jack Kammer's story shows us how fathers affect the lives of teenage boys.


Fred Reed

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Fathers and Daughters
This page lists featured articles about father-daughter relationships and shows thumbnails of the photos.

Bagged Terror
Florida, Hillary, And Airports. Maybe Them Terrorists Just Got Their Towels Wrapped Too Tight.


Fathers and Sons
This page lists feature articles about father-son relationships and shows thumbnails of the photos.

At the Circle's End - FatherMag Fiction
A killer disease has struck, causing rapid aging and death for all adults. One man finds himself to be the only adult who isn't getting older with the rest, in a world soon to be populated only by children.

Legal System
Our Legal Circus. Clowns, Dancing Bears, And Attorneys.


When Willie Wet the Bed
Fathering poetry about bedwetting boys, by Eugene Field. A humorous look at an ancient problem.


Male Sex Health Issues - Child Circumcision for Medical Reasons?
Is child circumcision obsolete or the cutting edge of American ingenuity?

Exploding Ourselves
Blowing Up At Dulles. Grenading We Will Go, Grenading We Will Go, Hi Ho....


Hair Loss: Male Pattern Baldness
The damage we see as hair loss isn't just cosmetic. Excess DHT is linked to other serious health issues for men. Medications such as Propecia and Avodart can lower your DHT.


puberty
puberty in boys and girls

Hant
Space Aliens At Roswell. Hant Did It.

polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS)
My young daughter may have PCOS. Is that serious? In a word, yes.


Interviews - Fathering Magazine
Fathering on the Fringe - Fathers outside of the mainstream.

Cannibalism
Must We Scorn Cannibalism? Toward Overcoming Euro-centric Western Prejudices.

Fathering Magazine Interviews
Classical Fathering, The Intentional Single Father.


Single Father Who Stayed Single
Interview with a single father and his son.

Warring On Ourselves
Warring Against Ourselves. En Route To Banning Yo-yos.


Single Father Talks about Romance and Parenting
An intentional single father talks about why he chose to have a child outside of a relationship.


Myopia: Room Light In Early Childhood and Nearsightedness
The Children's Hospital of Philadelphia found that children who slept with either a room light or night light on until age 2 were more likely to later develop myopia (nearsightedness).

Nuking New York
Warring Against Terrorism. What If This Is More Serious Than It Looks?

PAS: Parental Alienation Syndrome
What every father should know about parental alienation.


The Measure of a Man
There is no other court in the land where the penalty for perjury does not exist.

Women In Combat
Women In Combat. Facts From A Closet.


Between Two Worlds: The Inner Lives of Children of Divorce
More evidence that social breakdown begins at home.

Child Snatching: Women Who Kidnap Children and Babies
Child kidnappings by strangers are rare, but they do occur.

Harvard, Even
Hahvud Gets Sillier. Queer Studies Comes To Romper Room.


Single Fathers
Articles by and for single fathers.

Single Parent International Child Adoption
Some of the unique challenges faced by the single adoptive parent of a foreign child.

Airline Security
Airline Security. We're Not Serious. Take A Train.

Soccer drill videos - Sports
Soccer drill videos for training.


The Joy of Fathering
Fatherhood fulfills some of our most basic instincts.

The Pluke Bucket
Posing In The Pluke Bucket. Ba-a-ad Mo-sheen. Worse Maintenance.


The Importance of Fathers in Children's Lives
As everyone who has had one knows, a good father is a valuable asset.

Vacation and Travel with Children
What are the legal requirements?

Sensitivity
Sensitivity And Sergeant Rock. Whither The Military?


Parental Promise
Fathering poetry, by S. Goodwin.


Between Two Worlds: The Inner Lives of Children of Divorce
More evidence that social breakdown begins at home.

Preaching Evolution
Evolutionary Theology. Neither Heresy Nor Theresy. OK, I'm sorry...


They Won't Be in Diapers Forever!
How small children learn to maintain bladder and bowel control.


Myopia: Room Light In Early Childhood and Nearsightedness
The Children's Hospital of Philadelphia found that children who slept with either a room light or night light on until age 2 were more likely to later develop myopia (nearsightedness).


Feminists' Attack on Boys: Little Green Soldiers
But the constant assault on little boys is, I think, an extension of The Chip, the snappish, distempered animosity toward all things male.


Father of the Bride
FatherMag poetry, by Jennie Wheeling.


Hair Loss: Male Pattern Baldness
The damage we see as hair loss isn't just cosmetic. Excess DHT is linked to other serious health issues for men. Medications such as Propecia and Avodart can lower your DHT.

Sedition, Even
Democracy. Sort Of. Kinda. Maybe, Anyway.


Separated Siblings
How do children deal with the interrupted attachments so common in blended families?


Magnolias
The message I got was to slow down, the teacher, a stalwart Southern Magnolia.

Fred Reed


Discipline the Bully
When adult control fails, the resulting power vacuum is filled by gangs and bullies.


First Time Fathers Over 40
In separate interviews with several first-time fathers over 40, three factors emerged which seemed important to their readiness for becoming older dads: occupational and financial security, a clear understanding and adaptation to today's diverse fatherhood roles, and a strong drive for a sense of closure to their childless period of life.

Hate My Father? No Ma'am!
Tens of millions of male blue collar workers--who put their bodies on the line in the coal mines and steel mills so their wives and children could live in safety and comfort--have been turned into oppressors. Their wives and children, for whom these men sacrificed so much, have been turned into their victims.


The Single Parent
Fathering poetry, by R.R. Fretz.


Not a Father, a Daddy!
From teenage father to single dad.

Father Care: The Other Child Care Option
Can fathers do the job? Research says yes. A Yale study found that infants living only with their fathers were two to six months ahead of other infants in personal and social skills, and that older babies in father-care exhibited similar advantages.


Columbine and Heritage - 20/20 Shot You Down
Columbine and Heritage are only shooting galleries extending from our home. Fathering poetry, by Salvador G. Valdez.


Father of My Soul
I wondered if I would ever be as much a father to my children as my father had been to me.


Double-Standard Treatment for Child Abusers
Americans' ire has reached the boiling point over female child abusers who are treated with reverential deference by the media and our legal system. As long as we tolerate this gender double-standard, the problem will fester and grow.


Columbine: Chaos and Control
To think that a particular parenting style will keep our children sheltered from the horrors of this world is ludicrous. The best we can do for our child is be present as life washes over him.


Child Support Policy and Robert Williams
Why are child support awards so high? Because the same people who write the child support award guidelines are actually getting a cut of what parents pay!


Parents Judging Parents: A Preventable Flaw
When it comes to parenting, everyone and their brother has an opinion on how to do it best.


A Child's Hug
Hug: Fathering poetry, by Salvador G. Valdez.


The Measure of a Man
There is no other court in the land where the penalty for perjury does not exist.


A Perpetual Tug-of-War: Persuading Kids to Help Clean Up
My kids are as averse to picking up after themselves as most of us are to dental procedures.


Politically Correct Science
Has anything changed since the days when Copernicus and Galileo came under pressure for challenging the religious establishment's view of astronomy?


Parental Alienation Syndrome
It's easy enough to find material describing PAS and how devastating it can be. It's something else to find anything which proposes countermeasures.


The Challenge of Birthday Parties
It seems that in an effort to keep up with the Joneses, parents these days feel compelled to host more and more elaborate parties for their kids.


Not a Father, a Daddy! From teenage father to single dad, part two
More from Glenn about how he went from teenage father to single dad.


Single Father Who Stayed Single
Interview with a single father and his son.

My ToddlerSpeak Dictionary
Once a Stay-At-Home-Dad defines some of his kids' weird idioms, he has the responsibility to share those definitions with his wife!


Single Father Talks about Romance and Parenting
An intentional single father talks about why he chose to have a child outside of a relationship.


The Joy of Fathering
Fatherhood fulfills some of our most basic instincts.

Some Reasons to Stay Home
Why would anyone give up adult conversation, intellectual stimulation, and a salary to stay at home and be surrounded by children all day?...the dress code!


The Importance of Fathers in Children's Lives
As everyone who has had one knows, a good father is a valuable asset.


When Willie Wet the Bed
Fathering poetry about bedwetting boys, by Eugene Field. A humorous look at an ancient problem.

Mr. Mom? Whatever...
Some Stay-At-Home-Dads get offended if you call them Mr. Mom. After all, we're not Mom and we're not Michael Keaton. I have learned that it's not an insult. It's just a way to say


Teaching Children the Importance of Winning
Encouraging in our children the drive to win is just as important as teaching them to lose gracefully.


Cats: Fat with Cats
A father tells how his daughters filled the house with cats.


Valentine's Day: Find the Love You Once Had!
Children learn about respect and responsibility for marriage based on what they see at home.

Man, Woman, and Child
How should men defend the integrity of their families?


Traits of a Good Parent
You might think that the Stay-At-Home-Parent should be an expert in certain areas like time management or household organization. It turns out that these aren't as vital to being a good Chief Household Officer as you might think...


The Bully, the CyberBully and Their Victims
The experience of being singled out and picked on can turn into an ever more emotionally devastating downward spiral, and the experience of power felt by a bully can also become a dangerous emotional high that pushes him or her to more extreme behavior.

Missing Children: How Cause-Related Marketing Fuels the Scandal
Much of the responsibility for public misperception of the missing children problem goes to the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children, says The Wall Street Journal

Shared Parenting: Making Appropriate Custody and Access Decisions
Actively involved fathers participate in their child's homework, sports, school, and extra-curricular activities. This is only achievable by sharing physical custody.


Which One Should Stay Home?
Just because you are the Dad does not mean that you would be the best choice to stay home with the kids while your wife goes to work. There are many things to consider first, like who is the best suited for the job.


Father-Son Poetry: The Juniper Tree
Fathering poetry about the father-son relationship in a natural outdoor setting, by Michael Mager.

Abstinence as a Form of Planned Parenthood
Abstinence, like anything else that works, has to be taught. Who best to teach this but dad or mom?

Stay-At-Home-Dads Are One in a Million
It's official. The Census Bureau says that for every thousand men in America, ONE is a Stay-At-Home-Dad.


A Father of Brothers
If you have more than one child, you soon realize you cannot love them the same. Your love for them is as different as they are.

Gelding, by Lily: The sorrowful rise of neuter man
Women became enraged that men regarded them as sex objects. Men were puzzled. They didn't know what else to regard as sex objects.

Men Make Better Housewives
Part One: With the trend of more dads staying home from work to raise the children and maintain the household, it has been determined that there are certain advantages men have over women in the area of domestic management.

The Bully: Dads Take Care of Bullies
Bullies: Many times, what we expect as parents is not clear, particularly from our sons.


The Wonder Kid
A wonder kid is always good. A wonder kid does what she should. A wonder kid is never bad. A wonder kid makes daddies glad.


Fatherly Lessons
Imagine a young boy who has no older brother to teach him the really important skills in life. You know, the skills that are not only not taught in school, they are not allowed. Now, imagine if that little boy's father were a Stay-At-Home-Dad...


Missing Children: How Politics Helped Start the Scandal
Much of the responsibility for public misperception of the missing children problem goes to the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children, says The Wall Street Journal


Father's World
Of all the objects of my childhood, these are the ones that represent my dearest childhood memories of spending time with my father.


Confidence in Competence
Parenting can challenge the confidence of the best of us. When you are sure you are in over your head, don't underestimate your kids.


Baseball - Beginning Father-Son Sports Activities with Young Boys
This story shows us not only how fathers affect the lives of young boys, but how men learn from their sons as well.

Competition: Size Isn't Everything
Men constantly strive to best each other, to get one up on the next man. And if this compulsion is not softened, it creates hard edges on relationships that last a lifetime.


Parents Judging Parents: A Preventable Flaw
When it comes to parenting, everyone and their brother has an opinion on how to do it best.


Soccer Dad
He's the kid who the coach always puts at left fullback, so he'll be out of the way.


Teaching Children the Importance of Winning
Encouraging in our children the drive to win is just as important as teaching them to lose gracefully.


Children and Cars
Parents worst fears are often misplaced. The automobile remains the leading hazard to children. By comparison, according to the FBI, at most 200 children are abducted by strangers each year. But where is attention focused?


Bias Suit Reveals the Truth behind Schools' Boy Crisis
Two decades ago, boys were doing just fine. But now girls outnumber boys 2 to 1 on the honor roll, and about 60% of Advanced Placement students are female.


Reclaiming Fatherhood
Fatherhood: fixing man's broken chain of progenisis. A look at what needs to change in order for fathers to be more openly and actively involved in the raising of their children.


Things Handed Down
As most new fathers do, I find myself watching my son as he plays, thinking about the responsibility I have to him. It's a wonderful, albeit intimidating, thing. Knowing that I will guide this precious little person from infancy to manhood is something I don't take lightly.


Boy Crisis: Who's Afraid of Carol Gilligan?
Gilligan reported that girls found themselves voiceless and adrift. Go to any schoolyard, and you will find that more often it is the voices of boys who have become silenced.

New Wave Pro-Family Advocates Leave Fathers Out of Family
If welfare provides better support for a single mother than the father can, then remaining separate may be the rational economic choice.


A Revolution in American Fathering
This is about fathers crying, cooking, being afraid, braiding hair, waiting with children at the doctor's office, the principal's office, after school at the soccer field. The bottom line is, more and more men are choosing to be hands-on, hearts-on fathers than ever before.


Join YA, [Yelling Annonymous] and Reduce Stress
The most important thing is to not be reactive. Losing our temper generally results in yelling at our kids, slamming doors, or disciplining them too harshly.


Awee -- part one, fiction by Nasdijj (Timothy Patrick Barrus)
Behind all of his resolute complexity, there is a tender, rather scared boy, a boy who sometimes trembles, and I have to keep reminding myself of that.


Don't be a Junta: Walk away before a fight kills someone
Disciplining and punishing may win battles, but the models we give them win the war.


Trim Kids
The proven 12-week plan that has helped thousands of children achieve a healthier weight.


The Importance of Father's Time
An increased amount of father-child involvement increases a child's social stability, educational achievement, and even their potential to have a solid marriage as an adult.


Men Can't Do Everything Right
Stay-At-Home-Dads need the strength to learn the right way to do some things, humilty to accept what they cannot do right, and wisdom to know the difference.


Intersex
One out of every two thousand births is an intersex child, and the new baby presents the parents with a sudden gender dilemma. A tradition of secrecy means most parents are totally unprepared.


What is Commercialized Justice? Call it Justass
These government officials abuse their free access to the media, using it as a commercial medium to promote their career ambitions. Justice becomes Justass -- Just another stupid scam.


How to Be a Stay-At-Home Dad
As Stay-At-Home Dads, we have to remember that we are still men and must not let our nurturing, comforting sides take over and eliminate our grunting, fighting, hunting sides.


Blended Family Homework
Our most important work is done at home.


Child Abuse Scams, Commercialized Justice, Zealous Prosecutor
Combine draconian sex laws and commercialized justice with a zealous prosecutor, and you get child abuse scams like these: prosecutor abuse of children and families.

My ToddlerSpeak Dictionary
Once a Stay-At-Home-Dad defines some of his kids' weird idioms, he has the responsibility to share those definitions with his wife!


Your Father, Why Bother
How daughters can strengthen relationships with their fathers.

New Year
'Bout Like The Old Year






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